The Dark Moon in Gemini teaches us about empathy and connection to another soul (or with our own disparate selves). These relationships can take many forms: the persona we present to the world and the inner one we keep hidden, who we are and who we aspire to be, our mundane self and our Higher self, the person we think we are and the shadow self.
We tend to view these as separate entities, a duality that allows us to ignore or deny aspects of ourselves. Yet, they are all us, and part of the work is to acknowledge and reintegrate them in order to feel whole once more.
We use dialogue with ourselves so that we can begin to heal. It takes blunt honesty, combined with compassion and self-love. We must be willing partners, to accept the challenges, and to listen with an open heart, the messages our different aspects have to teach us.
Two-way attention is a practice that lets us dialogue with the Shadow while maintaining our awareness of self. It involves pointing the arrow of attention in two directions at once: one at the shadow and the other at the awareness of that shadow. It is to be aware of the shadow and aware of the awareness at the same time. We can develop this skill with the use of a mirror and meeting our reflection.
The Dark Moon is a time for inner reflections, personal journeys and shadow work. What better time to take stock, to face our deepest fears, to meet and embrace our Shadow side. Communing with our dark self may lead to valuable personal insights. As we shine light on our darkness, we come to a place of healing. The Shadow self is the part of us that reacts from a place of unconscious fear. Once those fears are brought into the light, we can begin the process of healing.
Meeting our Reflection
Sit comfortable and take several deep cleansing breaths.
Look at your reflection in the mirror. Do this without judgement or pointing out flaws. If you find yourself becoming critical, simply focus on the eyes.
Pay attention to the image in the mirror, then draw your attention to within yourself, your thoughts, feelings, sensations. Go back and forth, noticing the difference between the two. This is typically how we manoeuvre through the world, back and forth, our attention is focused on that which appears to be outside of us, and that which is within.
Next, draw your awareness to the attention itself. Notice that you are both the one who observes, and the one who is aware that she is observing. This is two-way attention. You are the one looking at the reflection, while at the same time, acknowledging your awareness that you are looking at your reflection. The attention itself is what connects the two, and is what brings the duality into wholeness. From this place of awareness, we can begin the dialogue and healing process.
Dark Moon Blessings,